Dear Drama Observers, A few years ago, I wrote about something called “the porcupine dance,” a phrase that depicts what characterizes many relationships. Even for those of us who have no rhythm, we can cut quite a rug with this one. I’ve summarized it below: *** A desire for connection draws us toward people. But […]
Dear Drama Observers, I had a client once who recounted what it was like growing up in her crazy family. The lead characters in this dysfunctional drama were Mom and Dad, but what drove her even more nuts was the way in which all the other family members played their supporting roles. I told her […]
Dear Drama Observers, Psychologist Henry Cloud writes that he once led an adult group comprised of ten individuals who met once a week for the purpose of enhancing their personal and relational growth. Henry’s teaching methods can sometimes be, let’s just say, unconventional. One evening, he arrived at the group carrying a baseball bat. After […]
Dear Drama Observers, Here’s something I posted a little over two years ago: Have you ever had that experience of reading or hearing a term that you sort of knew what it meant but weren’t quite sure? You were familiar with it, but since it’s not part of your everyday vernacular, the term’s meaning was […]
Dear Drama Observers, For those of us in our early twenties or older, the images of 911 will never be erased from our memories. We all remember right where we were when we heard the news. I had just finished an appointment in my office and checked my messages. My heart raced as I heard […]
Dear Drama Observers, I’d like to tell you the story of a couple I worked with once who are not unlike many other couples I’ve seen over the years. Actually, the wife was the one I ended up helping after the husband quickly opted out. More on that in a moment. Fred and Wilma (not […]
Dear Drama Observers, I have somewhat of a love-hate relationship with the word, codependency. On the one hand, it’s a useful term for describing a dynamic occurring between substance abusers and those in their relational orbit. On the other hand, it’s devolved into a psychobabble shorthand of sorts for describing things having little to do […]
Dear Drama Observers, I saw a couple once who were tangled up in a marital knot. What follows is the short version of their longer tale. Her complaint was: “He lies constantly. He tells me he’s going to do something but has no intention whatsoever of actually doing it. If he loved me, he’d follow […]
A Recollection of Something Not Remembered I recently re-watched a 1987 documentary series called Eyes on the Prize about the Civil Rights Movement during the 50’s and 60’s. You may recall the Freedom Riders of 1961 who rode buses through the South for the purpose of sitting where they wanted on the buses and using […]
Dear Drama Observers, For several years, I had the privilege of traveling the country to present a seminar for mental health professionals entitled “Inside the Manipulator’s Mind,” the chief focus of which was to equip professionals to help clients who were experiencing relational manipulation. Some seminars focus on treating the manipulator. Mine focuses on helping […]