April 19, 2019

Dear Drama Observers,

Just over two years ago, I started sending out The Drama Review on a weekly basis. I tell people sometimes: “I do it for one reason—because I want to.”

Drama People can be so dang confusing, and trying make sense of them can be like looking through a camera’s viewfinder with Vaseline smeared on the lens. No matter how much you turn the focus knob, the image is never quite clear. I’ve wanted this letter to be like a lens cleaner that increases clarity and reduces confusion. The better we understand Drama People, the less likely we are to fall prey to their manipulations.

My book was published in 2008 and a revised version came out in 2011. In there, I talk about “unreasonable” people which is a term synonymous with “drama” people. I call them unreasonable because they are un-reason-able. That is, they have neither the ability nor willingness to relate to others through reason. I call them “Drama People” because drama is their alternate method of relating. Drama People “get along” with others by manipulating them to play their obligatory roles. Drama participation smears the vision and leaves people confused, perplexed, and discombobulated.

I’ve been thinking for a long time about writing a second book dealing with the same subject area, but from a different angle. At long last, I’ve settled on a concept. At least, I’m pretty sure I have… Stay tuned.

I’m not a fast writer, and despite the fact that I love doing it, putting things down on paper is fairly laborious for me. I’m more like a stage coach than a bullet train. I’ll get there, but it’ll take longer.

I’m telling you this because, I’ve decided to designate a portion of each week to my new writing project. I’ll still be sending out The Drama Review but, with my limited time, they may be a bit shorter, and I may be posting more reruns. I can’t promise you I won’t miss a week here and there, so they may be more weekly-ish than weekly.

As I said, I write The Drama Review because I want to and I’ll keep doing it—because I want to. Along the way, I’ll be sending you some previews of the finished product. Thanks for bearing with me.

Till next week-ish.

16 replies
  1. Adele
    Adele says:

    That’s exciting ! Good luck with your new book. Of course I am racking my brain trying to guess at what the new angle will be and what concept you have in mind. I look forward to hearing more about It .

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  2. Patti
    Patti says:

    Each letter, whether original or a re-run, is validation of what I have lived. I’ve learned from every one, and I look forward to them whenever they arrive. Actually, I’m weary of too many emails, so I appreciate the “surprise” of a weekly-ish message. Keep them coming when ever you can, and I’ll look forward to the book.

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    • Alan Godwin
      Alan Godwin says:

      Thanks so much, Patti. It’s always good to hear that this material is helpful. I appreciate your taking time to write.

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  3. Susan Swart
    Susan Swart says:

    I love The Drama Review! Thank you for writing it. And thank you for writing books. I’m not a professional (my husband is), but I’m a lay counselor at my church, and I talk to a lot of women who deal with a lot of drama, so I appreciate the wisdom you impart.

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    • Alan Godwin
      Alan Godwin says:

      I’m sure you do hear lots of drama stories, Susan. Thanks for your nice comments. Keep doing what you’re doing.

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  4. David Lometti
    David Lometti says:

    Great stuff, would like to order your book, also you might consider doing a daily calendar so as to give us just enough of a daily dose to be aware and on guard.

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  5. Anonymous
    Anonymous says:

    Dr. Godwin, good luck with your book. I sincerely hope you continue with your discussions. I attended one of your workshops a few years ago and it has literally changed my life. Being married to a master manipulator, your weekly messages continue to reinforce my knowledge and help me to maintain some sanity in this chaotic world.

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    • Alan Godwin
      Alan Godwin says:

      How nice of you to write! I appreciate your kind remarks and I’m thrilled to hear that the information is useful.

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  6. Dena Hargrove
    Dena Hargrove says:

    I am excited for you and public! I loved your workshop on Manipulators , having been using what I learned to help clients. I love sharing your information with clients and seeing the light in their eyes come on’! Again-thanks for sharing your knowledge and skills!! I look forward to your newsletter but also totally understand your focus on a new book! I await the new book with anticipation that it will be as powerful and illuminating as are your workshops, other books, and newsletters! Thank you for your gracious willingness to share!!

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  7. Evans Steen
    Evans Steen says:

    Hi Allen,

    I really enjoy the Drama Review information. It has been very helpful in managing my circumstances. I hope you continue to produce it. I am introducing it to my fellow workers and feel it has a lot of merit in the workplace as well as personal applications.

    Thanks again!

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